In our American culture, being a "self-made" person has become something of great value. This phrase captures the ideal that individuals have within themselves the ability to accomplish something greater than they were born into. An example is a person born into a life of poverty and through much work and perseverance they rise to a place of prosperity and success. It's an ideal and opportunity that many people admire from across the waters in other nations. If not correctly balanced, there is a flaw that this ideal introduces. It can place a greater value on the individual and a lesser value on the help that others bring into our lives. We are not created to be lone rangers. We are created to need one another. King Solomon (a King in the nation of Israel's ancient history) is recorded as writing, "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up". That sure brings another view to the ideal of a "self made" person. Another interesting fact is that the field of neuroscience is finding through studies that "people" is the missing link to success. In other words success and relationships are linked together in our lives. Dr. John Townsend in his book, People Fuel, brings this fact to light. He also states, "People are the fuel for us to grow." Have you ever heard (or said yourself), "This job would be wonderful except for the people!" I have heard this and laughed!! Yes, there are challenges to relationships! And at the same time, we need relationships! We NEED People! Again, Dr. John Townsend speaks of "Relational Nutrients". He identifies 22 nutrients that we get from positive relationships in our lives. These nutrients create a healthy person just like our nutritional nutrients create a healthy body and mind. So....what is the take-a-way from all of this?? We NEED each other...people! So the next time you make room in your schedule to stop and talk with your friend or take a break from the "works" of life to invest in a relationship...remember, you are investing into your health and success. We can't do life alone. We have been created to do life with people. We need each other in the good, the bad, and the beautiful side of all that life brings! INVEST! Invest in your health. Invest in your success. Invest in another's health. Invest in another's success!
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How many of you would identify this picture as a picture of leadership? In this blog I want to talk about how this picture identifies the very heart of leadership. An integral part of leadership...Serving Others. Many times we imagine a leader as one who stands out front giving direction and orders to others. Well, that is a level of leadership or a function of leadership, and at the same time, that can not be all there is to leadership. Leadership must embody so much more to be effective and successful! Here are some quotes from John Maxwell's book, Developing the Leader In You 2.0: Quote #1: “When you decide to serve others as a leader, the team’s success becomes your success.” Quote #2: “The heart of leadership is based on serving others, not ourselves.” Quote #3: “True leaders are motivated by loving concern rather than personal glory…” As you chew on these quotes, what message is coming across to you?? Here are some thoughts: Thought #1: Leadership is about how to serve/help/empower the people connected to your leadership. Thought #2: Leadership is not about how people can make YOU look good but about how YOU can develop people. Thought #3: Leadership cultivates a team concept vs a boss concept. Thought #4: Leadership opens the door for communication, creativity, and reaching out beyond the box. So, does every person or every organization cultivate this side of leadership? No. And at the same time, you can cultivate this type of leadership within yourself. Remember, leadership is first influence. What kind of influence are you cultivating in the lives of others? Here are some steps to consider if you dare to venture into these waters of "Serving Others". Step #1: Begin to see people as valuable. Not an asset to be used but a treasure to be valued. Step #2: Move from selfishness to selflessness. Put others' well being before your own agenda. Step #3: Ask yourself: "What do I have to give to others to help them?" (gifts, knowledge, skills, time, etc) Step #4: Ask yourself: "What positive thing can I say or do to encourage someone?" Step #5: Start taking time and making effort to get to know the people around you (work, neighborhood, etc.). So, the next time you slow down long enough to hold the door open for someone vs rushing to get your errand done, remember, you are taking a positive step towards developing the leader in you! I use to love to hear my father in law talk about the building of their family home. It was a beautiful multi-level home built on the side of a tall hill in NW Arkansas. It was part of a new development in the mid to late 1960's. He talked about how he made sure the workers took the extra step to have extra steel rods placed in the foundation to support the house for the long haul. He knew the land in NWA and how foundations would crack and shift over time because of the terrain. He would check in on the progress regularly to make sure his instructions were being carried out. It took extra money and extra time, but he wanted the house to stand the tests of time. He didn't want the house to come tumbling down that tall hillside. And it has stood the tests of time! It remains a securely anchored home to this day...some 50 plus years later! When we think about our leadership, we can think about it being like a home we are building in the lives of people or organizations. And as we build this structure of leadership, the foundation counts! We want our leadership to be stable. We want our leadership to last through tough times. We want our leadership to leave a legacy that others can be inspired by and empowered by. How do we build such a leadership? Well...foundation counts! What is our leadership securely founded on? John Maxwell has some interesting points to share about this topic in his book, Developing the Leader Within You 2.0. He says that CHARACTER is the foundation of leadership. So, our good character is what provides a stable foundation to our leadership. That's a big word to reflect on...Character. It involves an inner development vs an outward image. It involves such things as honesty, being teachable, genuineness, and grit. Wow! Not skills like: planning, time management, casting vision, gaining buy in, setting and accomplishing goals or production. These are the outward parts of leadership. Character is about building the inner man. It's just like building a house. We can put some beautiful craftsmanship in the structure of the house such as: crown molding, quartz countertops, solid oak cabinets and bookshelves, and so forth. These outward features can create a home with a magnificent image. But if we build this magnificent house on sand versus a foundation of rock, all of it's beauty will come crashing and tumbling down in the storms we encounter in leadership and life. Developing the leader within you involves developing character within you. John Maxwell says, "The core of character boils down to three main things: embracing good values, practicing self-leadership (doing the right thing even when you don't want to), and valuing people." Start off identifying your values. Make a list. Then ask yourself what will I not negotiate on? Then take another step of showing value to other people. Do this by looking for ways to show others that you value them (acts of kindness). Dig down deep to the rock and take the time to lay extra steel enforcement. Make the foundation immovable and solid. Your leadership is important. Your influence counts big! Make the foundation solid so your influence will last through the tests of time and remain strong for the next generations. Adapted from: Developing the Leader Within You 2.0 John Maxwell |
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