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What a Smile Can Do…

1/19/2022

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​I heard someone say (and maybe you have too) “a smile is a frown turned upside down”. An interesting perspective…turning a frown upside down!

​How many of you like to see a smile? I know I do. A genuine smile. A smile that lights up someone’s face. But even a simple faint smile can change the atmosphere in a room.



Turning the negative upside down…turning it around into something that is positive, turning it into something that gives energy versus draining energy. Making this switch is not easy. When we have a frown, we often are not feeling so happy. Maybe we are worried. Maybe we are mad. Maybe we are sad. Maybe we are concentrating. Maybe we feel pressure and stress. Frowns are often connected with the negative feelings of life, and those negative feelings can often have a great force behind them spiraling us further into the deep dark hole of despair, depression, disgust. But…that frown can be turned upside down into a SMILE!
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​It does take effort! It takes a decision! It takes a belief that you CAN!

Let’s talk about some practical steps that can help turn a frown upside down and restore your SMILE!
  • Stop. Think. Ask… “Am I frowning right now?” Act… “Start smiling”. How does that make you feel? Just this simple act.
  • Remember. Remember the good things in your life. Maybe things are not too happy right now. Remember something that brought joy to you. Let your mind wander into that memory and stay there for a while. Soak in the joy of that memory.​
  • Purpose to get on the positive side. Listen to something funny. Find something good. I remember a story of an older man who disciplined himself to only speak uplifting words about people. He was at a funeral of another man who was disliked by many people because of his sour demeanor. This older man went to the casket and looked in, his statement was, “He sure had nice teeth.” There wasn’t much good to find in the life of the man who died, but the older man found something good…he found something uplifting.
  • Change your focus. Count your blessings. When things are going wrong, when tough things are piling on top of you, it is easy to be overcome with all that is wrong. It is easy to be overcome with worries or fears. This is a good time to get a piece of paper out and start writing down all the things that are “right” or the blessings in your life.
  • Sing a song. Dance a jig. Move. Wear happy colors. Talk to a friend. These activities can spark energy. Energy sparks positive emotions in us. Learn to work with what sparks you. Find those activities that release that flow of energy for you. Connect in with the joy of life.
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​SMILE…Turn that Frown UPSIDE Down or better…
RIGHT-SIDE UP!
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Thoughts on Expat Living

12/14/2021

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I have now been living overseas in SE Asia for 7 years. We made our first big move December 30, 2013 to Bangkok with two 50lb suitcases for each of us (four total). We carried clothes, shoes, toiletries and medical type supplies, special knickknacks for our new home (specially chosen ones), important papers for visa paperwork, laptops, and other miscellaneous but important items. Over these 7 years, we have lived basically the same way. We have what we need and enjoy, and, at the same time, my supply is carefully chosen and kept at a minimal amount. The days of storing the Christmas tins, having loads of blankets, pillows, and other bedding are behind me.

But I must say my thoughts on this minimalist lifestyle have recently been challenged. I have met some new expats in my city who live their life very differently. They have other options available to them, like the use of containers to ship their furniture and household goods wherever they live overseas. They have larger homes with kitchens in the Western style that is as fully equipped as we are used to in the States (including a dishwasher!!).

One side of me thinks back to life as I use to live it in my US home. Then I think of life here. It has taken adjustments, but the simpler way of life has come to suit me. I like being more thoughtful about the things I keep and store. I like having less things and a smaller area to keep clean. I do know that I want my space to be a comfortable space. I do want my space to be filled with things that remind me of special people and fill me with special thoughts from my life. I do want my space to be welcoming to others. And I must say that I like pretty things!
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I would also say that, by having met these new expat friends with more stuff, I have realized I could allow myself a few more things. (Hahaha!) What does that look like? Finding Glade solid air fresheners that give my closets, bathrooms, etc. a nice smell. I found the apple cinnamon scent here, and I have been buying and storing them (you truly may not find this again!). I bought myself a couple more pillows/cushions to enjoy and use for floor sitting. I bought a couple more blankets/throws to have for guests and to just enjoy ourselves. And I have another item on my wish list to help with my kitchen space management. So it has been good to expand some and feel the happiness of making my home more beautiful and comfortable.

For many years, even before my expat living, I found it good to de-clutter my home and my life at times. As we are approaching the end of this year, this can be a good time to re-evaluate our stuff. This stuff may be actual things we own. Or this stuff maybe attitudes, disappointments, expectations…you get the idea…that you continue to carry around with you. Here are some questions that could help us truthfully think about our stuff.
  • Do you really need all that you have?
  • Could you pass some on to others to bless them?
  • If you de-cluttered, eliminate, or let go of parts of your life or your stuff (remember it’s not just things you own) what would that do for you?
  • Is some of the stuff becoming a weight that is holding you back from other things?
  • For the material things…There can be great comfort and value in passing on some of your stuff to others. It is learning the process of letting go to be a blessing.
  • And for the “other” stuff, learning to let go of unnecessary or ineffective attitudes, disappointments, expectations, etc. can produce such a lightness in our lives.

​I call this “de-cluttering” of life and stuff -- Living Free.
As you are reflecting on these thoughts and questions…enjoy the simple beauty of candlelight and an age-old Christmas carol, “Silent Night”.


~Merry Christmas and Live Free!
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PEACE

11/5/2021

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Just saying or thinking the word PEACE can produce a calming type of feeling. Or maybe a longing for it and a sorrow that it can seem so far away?

There is no price tag that we can put on this PEACE.

There is no box that we can fit this PEACE in.

There is no legislation we can lobby for or pass that can give us this PEACE…an inner PEACE of the heart.

And yet, when all chaos is breaking loose around us, this PEACE can be an anchor. This PEACE can become something very tangible and real in our lives. How can something unseen be such a powerful force in our lives?

I think of this quote, “Peace I leave with you. Not as the world gives, but My PEACE.” That’s a PEACE worth searching for. That’s a PEACE worth finding.

If you do not know this PEACE, contact me (send a contact message from this website). I will be happy to share with you about this PEACE that anchors and calms in the fiercest of storms in life.

Enjoy this link to some beautiful and peaceful music and images:
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"My peace I give to you..."
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"Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid."
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    Cindy writes about her adventures, observations, and other nuggets from living in another nation. She and John live in SE Asia. She will also share nuggets from her 58 plus years of life.

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